“I do not recognise my child for the last couple of years. It is like having a stranger in the house… I am constantly worried and do not know how to talk to my own kid any more. All I get in return is “whatever” and the state of our relationship is frightening. My words mean nothing these days and my house is not respected. I do not know how to communicate my concerns to my own flesh and blood…”

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Usually the problems start with puberty and sometimes with trauma (divorce, bulling, loss. . .).

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As our children change for whatever reason they go through many processes that are very new and sometimes uncomfortable for them. They have to deal with physical and emotional growth that is very rapid and hard to handle. And they can feel so lonely and angry all the time… and here is this depression, and school, and stress, and hate and they used to be full of energy but now cannot even pick a shoe up off the floor. Some of them become a bully. Some are being bullied. Some would not dare to speak about it to anyone…

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For parents it also can be a hard time. The little princess or that sweet little boy is not that little and sweet any more. They snap and the need for new boundaries is un-welcomed. Communication has become almost impossible. There are so many things to be worry about: drugs, alcohol, violence, low self esteem, bad grades, pregnancy…

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Both parents and children love each other but this love sometimes becomes invisible under all that shouting and nagging.

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• How do you rebuild the bridge?

• How can you set up the appropriate boundaries without destroying peace between you?

• How can you make your child listen?

• How can you get them talking?

• How can you express your love for your child without it being thrown back in your face?

• How can you be sure you will hear the truth?

• How can you be a parent and a friend to your child?

• How can you trust each other again?

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There are many ways to restore communication, mutual respect, trust, confidence and affection between parents and children of any age.

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Every family is different but we all share similar issues and there is always something unique about our kids.

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Sometimes all it takes is a small change in our approach as long as we find out exactly where the problem starts.

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The counselling of the whole family unit, one parent and child, or parent and child separately is available.